Well, for a brief update.

I'm pissed as hell. Ya'll know about my ex husband. About how I had to go to that stupid meeting with the child support people. Everything was agreed upon and should have been taken care of, and that would be that.

But nnooooooooo.

My ex husband has decided to be a dick. All he had to do was get a sheet of paper notarized, and returned to the attorney general office and it would have been taken care of. Instead, he refused to sign the paper, and now is being a total ass about it. So, I have to get all this stuff notarized and sent back in to the AG office. After that they are going to serve him with papers. Then he has 20 days to decide if he wants to fight the ruling on this or what. If he wants to fight the ruling on child support, then we go to court.

What he doesn't seem to understand is that I can be a bigger !!!!! than he can be a dick. Before, I just wanted it over, so I agreed to split the costs of some things, like medical bills, vision, dental, etc. I didn't say anything about college tuition. If we go to court, I am going after the full amount of everything. I know that under law I can force him to pay all her medical bills, and place her on insurance. What the insurance doesn't pay, then he will have to pick up. He can be forced to pay half of her college tuition until she is 21.

He had pulled this big sob story about having another child he is having to pay support for now. I don't think he understands. I don't give a rat's ass about that other kid. I care about MY child, and what she deserves. I don't give a damn if every dime of his paycheck goes to child support and he is sleeping in his car. I don't give a damn if he even HAS a car. The only person in this equation who matters to me is my daughter. I feel sympathy for any other children he might or might not have floating around out there. Sympathy is not enough for him to take what my daughter deserves away from her, however.

Mess with me all you want, but do NOT mess with my child. Period. I think he still has the mental image of me when we got divorced. I was a scared, beaten victim then. Now, I am a survivor. I walked thru hell with that man, and came out the other side. There is nothing he can do to me to intimidate me any longer. If he tries, we are going to have some serious problems. I will have him thrown back in jail so quick he won't know what hit him. I survived him, and things a hell of a lot worse. He just doesn't scare me anymore, and I think that is what he is counting on. Boy, is he in for a surprise.

So, I have 20 days from Monday to see if he is going to fight me on this. I have played nice for the past 13 years. My patience is totally at it's end.

Sorry to hear the troubles are continuing.

I am so glad my ex and I still get along. When she left, I got both kids. We agreed on $350 a month child support (10 years ago). It was the cost of their tuition to our church school. The court said she has to pay all their insurance, which is good because the school district I work for has terrible insurance. It would cost over $300 a month just for the kids insurance. (I use the VA for myself so I have no insurance). I haven't even asked for an increase in all those years.

Matter of fact she and her new husband (#4) got a new puppy (also #4) and felt that they had to bring her over to meet us, and our dog.

It is so hard on the kids when the breakup keeps going. I wish you all the luck in the world!

I dont mean to be rude, but it works both ways. I pay 600 a month for my son, when we split up, i got a job interview for my ex, she never went to the interview, twice the money she was making. She preferred to drag more and more out of me, my benifits pay for alot for my son, and now for the last ywar, he keeps saying, I want to live with yuo dad. He fights with her alot, so whats a man to do, do the right thing? or be worried she gets upset, no offense Adri, I know some men can be jerks but some women drag every cent someof us have , I apy for clothes, school suppliues ad she goes to Florida 3x a year on support I pay? *frustrated*

I can understand the frustration there Shiro. Mine is just about the opposite case tho.

My ex was the one who requested the hearing. I had been content to just let him pay the small amount he was previously paying, and leave everything alone. He requested a hearing to get it lowered, when he wasn't even paying HALF of what he was supposed to be paying in the first place. It ticked the attorney general's office off, and now he gets to pay the consequence.

He is the one who kicked this sleeping dog. He should have just let it lay there. Now he gets to play with it.

I see your point, my ex thought it was ok to collect me, treats our 14 yr old son like she can control him instead of giving him room for free thought and as for financial, good lord.
He got braces and all I asked for was an westimate from the doctor, she makes the plans, uses my benifits, to the tune of 1 grand, then after all is in her writing, asks me to pay for half, I asked her, tell the doctor to send me something in WRITING, (hence, we cant get along, so a judge will NEED to get a ruling, financially anway, we cant talk on same level).Nthing was ever sent, her response is, dont make me take you to court. ...O please DO!
Let a judge make a ruling , she cant just make all these plans, cut me out of the loop then expect me to pay for half of what SHE agrees to with some doc or other organization. Perhaps its time to let my son come live with me, hes been asking for a year now, i waited because i wanted to be sure its what he wanted and not because he was mad at his mom.
It sux doing the right thing all the time whilst she prances around with rose colored glasses on............Hey I feel better now lol

Your ex really messed up if he pissed off the AG. My ex wasn't paying for a while and when they were rounding up the deadbeat dads she got caught up with them. She sure pays on time now!

Adri......the trigger squeezes sooooo easily sometimes....*grins*

I don't have kids and will do my absolute best not to have them either. As for each of your situations, well stick it to em Adri. And Shiro, stop paying. It will drag you back into court and I believe there is a few states where you can request a secondary "hearing" or whatever. But your back in court and thats where you want to be in that situation. I would just have the money ready to hand over when you do though.

And she goes to florida 3x a year? How? Like even child support doesn't give them that much cash, and if she doesn't work then its definitly not enough. Unless you live in Cuba or something, be surprised how far those boats can go....

Shes remarried, works in a food store, my son wants to live with me, its about time I think, he will be happier, so will I, if I stop paying, she just has a reason to try to throw me in jail like she did when I was sick 2 years ago. All I told her when she gets all pouty is,-life has a way of working itself out, I am moving in Juy to a 2 bedroom, apt or house, not sure yet. The judge will ask him where he wants to live, hes old enough, almost 15 now. Its about doing the right thing and he loves uo lol, hes a learning.
Why should people be so unhappy as to ruin life for others, O Ya I forgot, all the drama players lol.

My only guess to why people ruin other people's lives is because they are spoiled and didn't get their way. And feel that its your fault and you must be punished.

I have a long fuse most of the time and it takes a lot to make me loose it(and thats a good thing for a guy my size). And very very very few people have made it to my "ruin thier life" list. Actually I can't really think of any. The only one person who maybe on that list I would probably just beat him into the hospital and call it a day. That is if I ever found him.